Zulu word before hello, direct translation to I see you.

Life tells us that difficult emotions are unproductive and unwelcome Normative view in rigid right and wrong emotions, and in the face of complexity, is toxic Emotional agility Always trying to find the silver lining Marginalized and discriminated against Ignoring our difficult experiences and fullness in what we are capable of, to bear the reality of these experiences Persistent happiness and refusal to engage in difficult emotions means that they are hassled with, bottled up and are rationalised and logiced until nothing. Stress and discomfort are part of life, and we cannot engage with making a change in the world, pursuing our professional interests and having deep and meaningful relationships without these discomforts. It’s the price of admission for a reasonable life. Not to get stuck and brude, they are then calling the shots and firing the cannons. Call the shots in our own life. Some cope by fearing difficult emotions, always trying to see the silver lining and refusal of experience, walls are built up and layers of emotional concrete layers are put in place to cement the experience, not allow feelings to move or transition as all stagnant emotions are not scary, we can see them as easier to deal with, in our pursuit of eudamania. Aristotle virtue
Amplification, of these

What is a good and healthy way to deal with these?

  • Engaging in self care and recognition of our own values, litmus for effective long term strategy
  • Move out of head and into life, is it uncomfortable -> You can get agency and power. Active and directive strategies
  • Grace and dignity of showing up and asking for help

Different emotions assist us with different types of thinking, the experience of feeling down and sad, engage different types of thinking styles of critical, contingency and worry. There is power, by being critical of our economic circumstance and creation of contingency, normative negative emotions help us in this mindset. Negative emotions help pain the big picture in the human condition, and a complete sense. Appreciate the reality of difficult emotions and help us navigate forward. Showing up with compassion, acceptance and curiosity, without brude or bottling, can help us direct the arrow of direction in our own lives. Life will always move forward and different chapters will open and close. Forgiving others in the here and now, and recognizing that we are all doing the best we can